So the day has finally come. I'm a SAHM. I always knew that I wanted to stay home when I had kids, I'm just having a hard time believing that I'm at that point. You'd think that I would have clued in when I was actually at the hospital giving birth. I think I was happy to be in denial thinking I could bring home an income and raise a child. But I'm afraid I'm not that amazing and I was missing out on my little girl.
I'm terrified of being mom 24/7. I feel exhausted just thinking about it. She has started throwing fits...I wonder where she gets that from. ;) She'll just through her head back and start screaming. Isn't she a little young for that? I am SO not looking forward to the teenage years. Any great advice for how to kick that habit before it becomes the story of my life for the next twenty years?
I've got plenty of things to do on my list but what's the hurry? Part of me wants to just go at it...actually a lot of me but then I think, "then what?" I'm sure something else will come up but it's this vastness of time that freaks me out a bit. There have been a few friends from the ward who have been taking me under their wing to make sure I make the adjustment well and planning different activities for each day of the week but I'm still alittle leery of it all. I know in time I'll get used to this lifestyle but all seems so foreign to me.
As I've been writing this post, I am reminded of Elder Wirthin's words, "Come what may and love it". It'll be okay. I'm sure of it. And if I change my mindset, I just might end up loving it. :)
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Don't worry you'll do great. :) And if you ever need to vent about tantrums/fits or u feel like ur about to have one yourself, feel free to give me a ring.
I had a difficult time making the transition to being a SAHM, and it took me much longer than expected to get used to staying home. I know what you mean when you say the vastness of time freaks you out a little bit. Give yourself some time to adjust. It's not that you're not amazing, it's just that you can't have everything all at once. You can still do things you love and set goals, it's just different now. My advise would be to try to find reasons to enjoy and be happy every day. I look at my little girl getting bigger and wish I could freeze her in time now and keep her little forever, when before I couldn't wait until she got big! And there's not much you can do about her throwing a fit. Sorry! :) You're awesome.
I am in the same boat! I am so excited and yet scared to stay home with my soon to be two kids. It will definitely be an adventure, but as of now I can't fully commit to stay home without working some hours from home for my company...but we'll see how long that lasts. Part of me just wants to be done with work completely, but I also feel like I have so much to still offer so I'm torn. Fun times ahead!
p.s. check your email because I'm coming to Lincoln next week and I want to see you! :-)
I have found that since Wesley knew sign language he was able to better communicate what he wanted. The signing time series (you can find it at the library, hopefully) is great and helps young young children learn how to sign things like milk, potty, cereal, hungry, eat.... that way there is less need for tantrums. It doesn't have to be used as a 2nd language, just the basics are extremely helpful! You'll be great :) You are a fun and wonderful person and you are gonna be one amazing mother :D
It's okay to mourn the passing of your old life, just don't stay there too long. Find a routine, and don't forget to include some time for yourself. You'll be fine and you'll be surprised at how quickly your time fills up. How long has Rebekah been throwing fits? Is she sick, overly tired, teething? If not any of those things, just put her in her crib until she calms down. And I am afraid they are never too young to throw fits. Oh and the Signing Time videos are great, all my kids love them.
You'll do great. it is hard staying at home sometimes, but like others said, time fills up so quickly. Often times I wish I had more hours in the day. Give me a call whenever you're bored, or wanting another adult to talk to :)
I found this link and I think you might like it...http://www.mormon.org/me/1K68-eng
It has to do with being a mother.
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